Showing posts with label Psalm 140. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Psalm 140. Show all posts

October 26, 2018


Some People Stir Up Trouble

Rescue me, LORD, from evildoers; protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts and stir up war every day.
– Psalm 140:1-2

She was not a gossip. Oh, no. Not her. She merely listened to everything she could possibly hear, whether she was part of the conversation or not, then went running to the pastor to tattle.

I know. But there really is no other way to put it. When we were kids, we called people like that tattle tails. Unfortunately, she never outgrew it.

This was not a case of mentioning to the pastor that so-and-so was about to have surgery and maybe a call was appropriate. Her commentary was on anything from those who opposed the new carpet color to someone allegedly having an affair.

Unfortunately, this pastor encouraged her behavior by listening. It was gossip that sometimes had no factual foundation. Who she was passing the information on to was irrelevant. Gossip is gossip and her gossip was designed to stir up trouble.

Another woman does the same thing at her job. She is known as the “spy.” She runs back to the bosses with any tales of inadequate work or attitudes that should be adjusted. She does it with a sugary smile but her words are designed to bring trouble.

She’s also quick to take credit for anything good that happens. She doesn’t bother to mention her team. She doesn’t extend credit to anyone else. It’s all about her until something goes wrong. Then she’ll find someone else to take the fall for her mistake.

Some people just thrive on drama. They love to stir up trouble. They enjoy turning one person against another. It’s as though they get a power rush from seeing it all unfold.

I wonder sometimes if insecurities fuel their behavior. Maybe. But other times I think people like this are just mean. They don’t seem to care who they hurt.

I wish I had a grand plan to put a stop to this behavior. I don’t. Because people who don’t see anything wrong with their words or actions aren’t going to change just because you or I think they should.

I do believe that we should take everything to God first. Take your hurt to Him. Take your frustration to Him. Take your tears to Him. And trust Him to work it all out.

Also, be sure to pray for the person who is harming you or others. Ask God to open your heart to that person so that you can forgive and let it go. Be kind even when you know it’s wise not to trust. Don’t allow their behavior to lead you into sin.

Sunday, December 26, 2010

God Heals Family Wounds

"Let the heads of those who surround me be covered with the trouble their lips have caused." -- Psalm 140:9

Holiday gatherings are fraught with emotional minefields. Someone is bound to get upset with someone or about something. Someone is always an outcast. Children laugh and play until they are too tired to sleep but not too tired to cry. Christmas...peace on earth but not always around the family Christmas tree.

Families have the power to wound more quickly and more deeply than anyone else. They know exactly the buttons to push. Some of them have had years of experience. All it takes is a moment of jealousy and out come the fangs. They lash out because favoritism is something that they guard with everything they've got.

I find myself holding back, almost afraid to laugh and play with the kids. I'm afraid of being shoved aside -- sometimes physically -- by a grandparent who feels threatened because a child actually likes me. I steel myself against the inevitable nasty comments about gifts I chose. I know nothing is ever right because the name beside the "from" on the tag is always wrong. Family dynamics. I know my place. I do. It somehow doesn't stop the hurt.

I take shelter in God's arms. I thank Him for all I have and the family that casts me aside. They are family, after all, and in good health. I'm thankful for that. I'm thankful for a place to live and food to eat. So many people don't have those things. I am thankful that today is Jesus' birthday and that He lives inside of me. I am also thankful that this isn't my real home and that one day I will be welcomed into a family that truly wants me and that, somehow, I will be enough.

A family's wounds stay with you. God understands. He is the healer of all things, including emotional scars from holiday gatherings.