February 5, 2018

Reach Across the Aisle

Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. – Romans 12:16 (NIV)

Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all. – Romans 12:16 (NLT)

Oh, my. I just had to share two translations of this wonderful verse. Chances are you’ve all been in a position before where you were excluded because of your station in life or you didn’t want to associate with someone because of theirs.

I was never the popular kid in school. How about you? I had my own set of friends and we were not part of the “it” group. That was okay then. It’s more than okay now. I just wasn’t interested in being like everyone else.

Of course, I had my moments. I wanted one of “those” shirts with the correct label. I laugh at myself now. It was a nice shirt but status and labels just don’t matter. They’re just surface frivolity.

The really sad thing is when we see it in our churches. We gossip about the kids, and sometimes adults, who don’t wear a “new” outfit on Easter Sunday. We look down on the parents who don’t host pool parties or expensive birthday parties for their kids. And, my goodness, can’t we be critical of clothing and manners and performance of those who attend our worship services?

 All in the name of Jesus, of course.

One woman was obsessed with perfection. She was always beautifully dressed. She used china and crystal when she hosted the neighborhood card parties. She was really particular about who she invited. Maybe she thought all that would make her happy. It didn’t. She lost her mind. How sad.

Others believe they should only socialize with people who are “like” them. They want to surround themselves with the same economic class, the same ethnicity, the same denomination. They create an insulated world that helps them hate what they don’t understand.

Several years ago our pastor urged us to sit somewhere different on Sunday morning. He helped by having all the seats in our contemporary service rearranged. It was certainly uncomfortable. It was also eye opening. When we left our comfort zone, we were more open to others. We laughed with people we’d never met. We shared conversations with people who were way different.

Maybe that’s why we’re so hateful and angry these days. We have no tolerance for differences. We insist that we are right all the time in all things. We’ve forgotten what it’s like to reach across the aisle and genuinely greet someone who is different in temperament, color, religious traditions and political views.


We don’t have to always agree in order to live in harmony with one another. No one is better than another. And none of us know everything. We need to get over ourselves and learn to live with our differences. We’ll all be happier for having done so.

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