January 13, 2018

Lying Lips Always Revealed

Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. Their malice may be concealed by deception, but their wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. – Proverbs 26:24-25

The other day someone asked me if I’d talked recently to someone we both know. I hadn’t. I didn’t tell the questioner I was glad. I simply changed the subject and the conversation moved on.

What I didn’t say is that the person isn’t safe for me. He is someone who lies easily and speaks falsely to my face before turning behind my back and spreading deceit. I don’t think I’m supposed to know. Maybe he has convinced himself that he is fooling me. He has no idea how many people have asked me if I know what he says about me about my back. Nor does he realize how little they think of him because of it.

I choose not to spend time with him. I don’t return phone calls and only speak when I must. I don’t inquire about his life. I no longer want to hear about his tangled web. He’s told so many lies about others that he trips himself up, unable to remember what he’s said before. It’s surely no surprise that he lies about me as well.

Some days I feel sorry for him. He truly is a miserable soul. He’s so intent on making money, on having his dream house and living as he sees fit, that he misses what is important. All of his relationships, including those with his children and grandchildren, are in continual turmoil. He stirs that pot again and again.

What bothers me as that those who don’t know him well see him as a man of God. They think of the good he has done, failing to hear the words “me” and “I” when he proclaims his good works. He uses ministry opportunities to further his own ego. Why do I say this? Because he never, ever gives Jesus credit for anything.

People don’t want to hear that, of course. We all have a need to believe there are good, selfless people in the world. We buy the lines, failing to truly listen or look beyond the surface. We’ve been disillusioned too many times. Just this once we’d like to believe in something, or someone, who rings true.

I mostly remain silent. I choose to keep my distance. I wish him well. I hope that someday he truly understands that this life isn’t about him. It isn’t about me either. Or about you. It’s about Jesus. It’s about glorifying God. It’s about walking in the light that is the Holy Spirit.

It isn’t always easy to turn away from the lies. There is that part of me that would like to loudly and publicly challenge him. But I’ve come to learn that the truth has a way of emerging when we least expect it. God really does do battle on our behalf. He defends those who belong to Him.


And I do belong to Him. I know that with every fiber of my being. So on those days when the lies sting my soul, when others think badly of me because of what he has said, when I want to loudly proclaim the truth, I walk away. I hold my tongue and trust my God to handle it in His own way in His own time. Because He will. Every time.

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