February 10, 2016

Walk Away From The Drama

Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned. -- Titus 3:10-11

Have you ever noticed how drama just seems to surround some people? They always seem to be in the middle of a controversy or disagreement of some sort. And it’s never their fault.

They are what my dear counselor friend calls a pot stirrer. They pretend to walk the middle ground but in reality they are playing both sides against each other.

It goes like this: They have a conversation with one person, then repeat that conversation to someone else fully understanding that it will upset that person. Then they turn around and repeat the second conversation with the first person. And on and on until there is major drama going on.

And they do it every where they go.

They are the people in church who question everything and everyone, asking -- innocently, of course -- what the motives behind different decisions might be. They are the people who disagree with everything, encouraging others to follow their lead.

They are the people at work who gossip and finger point, stirring up trouble and making people dislike each other without ever really knowing each other.

And they are the people in our circle of family and friends who always have something ugly to say about everything. You know the type. They can’t believe what so and so said. They can’t believe what the hostess served. They can’t believe who the hostess invited. The gifts are all wrong. The temperature is too hot or cold. And on and on it goes.

Don’t let yourself be drawn into their drama. Recognize it for what it is -- their need to control and manipulate every situation. It’s about them. It’s not about you. And certainly it’s not about God.

So walk away. Refuse to participate. Be nice but don’t give them information they can use to stir things up. Drama isn’t good for anyone. And you really don’t have to play that game anymore.