December 28, 2018


Consider the Consequences

Once when Jacob was cooking some stew, Esau came in from the open country, famished. He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” (That is why he was also called Edom.)
Jacob replied, “First sell me your birthright.”
“Look, I am about to die,” Esau said, “What good is the birthright to me?”
But Jacob said, “Swear to me first.” So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob.
Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left.
So Esau despised his birthright.
– Genesis 25:29-34

Area Boy Scouts gather each year for what is termed an authentic camping trip. They dress in period costumes and seek to relive life as it once was. One of the more popular events happens on the trade blankets, when the kids barter items with each other.

It’s easy to see what each boy’s priorities are. One might give away something valuable, such as a knife or deer antlers, for a piece of candy. Another might hold on to those things, waiting for something like a mounted fish or pottery.

Some can only see what they want in that moment and they react accordingly. Others are willing to wait for the right thing to come at the right time. We aren’t any different.

Esau and Jacob were fraternal twins who had battled to be first even in the womb. They had emerged with Esau as the elder, and his father’s favorite, and Jacob as the younger, and his mother’s favorite.

Being the firstborn male came with additional privileges and responsibilities. He would one day inherit a double portion and be the leader of the family. But birth order didn’t always reveal the best man for the job.

Esau didn’t value what was given to him by chance of birth. He was focused on the moment and didn’t consider what he was giving up. So he sold his birthright for a bowl of stew.

Jacob was certainly not without sin. He, with help from his mother, later tricked his dying father into giving him the paternal blessing rather than allowing it to go to Esau. In the end it wouldn’t have mattered anyway. Selling his birthright wasn’t the only mistake Esau made. He also married two foreign women, something that simply couldn’t happen to Abraham’s descendant. Though Esau later married an acceptable woman, it was too late to undo what he’d already done.

We reap the consequences of our actions. It’s a sad truth. We can’t undo what we’ve done. We can’t always rebuild what we’ve destroyed. We can’t change what our actions reveal about our priorities.

The child who trades something valuable for a piece of candy can’t come back and change his mind when he realizes what he’s done. And we can’t come back later and undo the consequences of what we’ve done.

A sweet man I know once remarked that if he could change one thing it would be letting his wife go. She’s fine. She remarried a wonderful man and is happy. He, on the other hand, now realizes what he destroyed with his words and actions. He is alone and living with the consequences of what he can’t undo.

What’s the lesson in all this? Think about the consequences before you do something that can never be undone. Consider your words and actions before you destroy a bridge that can never be rebuilt.

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