Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Lies Aim To Destroy

"Not a word from their mouth can be trusted; their heart is filled with destruction. Their throat is an open grave; with their tongue they speak deceit." -- Psalm 5:9

Last week my Mother came home and proceeded to tell me the news. Her news usually involves hateful gossip and very little actual news. She got so caught up in her story that she slipped up and repeated what she'd told someone I'd said. Except I hadn't said it. I called her own it. She laughed as she admitted she knew I'd never said it. When I got upset, she merely huffed and walked away. The victim in her own drama. Again.

I really don't trust most of what she says anymore. Oh, she's lied many times before this. My childhood memories include numerous lies and much embarrassment as she targeted me to get her fun. It's just that I've finally had enough. Lies are that way. They destroy relationships.

Sometimes lies are an attempt to cover up wrong actions. Other times the lies seek to build the liar up in their own eyes. Mostly it seems the lies are aimed at destroying other people. They can come from jealousy or meanness or any number of reasons but the aim is to hurt. How sad it that?

I know the Bible tells me to forgive again and again. And I will. I always have, even though she doesn't deserve it. I don't deserve to be forgiven either but God forgives me for my sins. So I'll try to move past this latest thing -- at least the one I know about -- and hope that people see the untruth in her words. Experience tells me that sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. I can't control what other people think anymore than I can control the pain that comes from the rejection I experience when people do believe her lies. I cling to the cross and the salvation I find there. I know it'll all work out in the end and He will be glorified. Until then, I pray for a heart that is open to forgive a Mother who is more enemy than friend.

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